We all hear the talk about self love and its benefits, but what’s the hype really about? In this article, we will explore how self love can help you build healthy relationships with others and yourself.
What Is Self-Love?
Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself. It stems from actions that support our own physical, psychological, and spiritual growth.
As we all have different needs and wants self love and care mean something different for each person.
Anyways, one thing for sure is that self love has absolutely nothing to do with being a narcissistic selfish person. It’s a completely different thing. Continue reading to understand the difference.
Mental and Physical Self-Love
I like to divide self-love to mental and physical.
A positive mindset, healthy relationship, self-acceptance, gratitude, and focusing on your feelings will fall under the mental side. On the other hand, all the things related to our bodies like eating healthy food, exercising, and sleeping well are ways to practice physical self-love.
You may think that “wait, you cannot have one without the another!”. And you are absolutely right. Mental health and physical self-love are twined together, in the same way as you and the universe are.
So what to do to start loving and accepting yourself and truly seeing your self-worth? These 10 ways to practice self-love will help you get started on your journey.
10 Ways to Practice Self-Love
Meditation is a bridge that connects your physical and mental well-being. It’s thousands of years old spiritual practice, which can help to clear your mind and bring you to the present moment. Practicing meditation can also help with focus and to get rid of negative thoughts.
As a part of a self-love routine, meditation is the fastest way to understand how you are doing. This is because in a meditative state of mind, you can feel and listen to your body, and begin your journey to self love and acceptance.
I recommend practicing meditation every day to see how you feel. It can be your morning ritual of self-love. However, if you prefer some other time of the day, that will be just fine. Any time of the day when you have a few free minutes in a calm and quiet place works.
To get started with meditation, here’s our complete guide to manifestation meditation.
2. Put Yourself First
We often put someone else’s interests above ours. Maybe it’s because we think it’s the right thing to do, or don’t want to be seen as selfish. But choosing to be the second in line every single day is not good for us… actually quite the opposite. We harm ourselves and go from love to feeling bad both mentally and physically.
Putting yourself first doesn’t make you a bad person. It doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone you love. To the contrary, prioritizing yourself makes you someone who cares about themselves, which will, in the long term, also be better for others around you.
3. Express Gratitude
Being grateful for what you have is one of the best ways to create happiness, joy and self-love. Practicing gratitude will help you to understand that your life is already amazing and full of love.
One of my favorite methods is to write everything I’m grateful for in a notebook. Be as specific as possible. Put down everything you are grateful for throughout the day as positive statements. Try this, and you will be pleasantly surprised how life starts to get better.
“I am grateful to open my eyes and wake up every day and be able to breathe and walk freely”
“I appreciate my body for serving me and being healthy”
“I love my life”
If you want, instead of the notebook, you can create your own dedicated manifestation journal. Find out more about manifestation journaling.
4. Care Less About Others’ Opinions
Self love starts by focusing on what is good for you instead of just pleasing others.
How many times you didn’t do something because of someone else’s opinion? How many times you wanted to change your life but your “friends” told you that it wouldn’t work? How many times you wanted to start your own business or create something but a friend or your parents said that it was not for you?
I will tell you how many…. enough to start prioritizing your own needs and wants.
Every time some person gives you an opinion that you didn’t ask… just do your thing. Do not stop just because someone told you to. No one knows what is best for you except you.
5. Accept Your Uniqueness
Love and accept yourself for who you are.
Unique means beautiful. The only one. To love your uniqueness means to understand that there is only one you on this planet! Imagine! there is no other person like you. Isn’t that great?
The mother nature made us all unique. Because none else is completely the same, it’s only we who understand what we need and deserve, and only we who can love and treat ourselves in a way that fully satisfies those needs and feelings.
6. Create Your Own Self-Love Ritual
Having your own self-love routine is important. We are all different and have our own needs and wants. What is a self-care ritual to me can look like something funny to you.
The starting point is to understand what self love ritual is the best for you.
For example, if you like to be on the go and work a lot, you could write what are you grateful for on your lunch break, and then take a few deep breaths and meditate before bedtime. Although, I would also recommend including some relaxing time for yourself like a hot bath or massage every now and then.
If you are more about fitness, then perhaps you could take yoga classes a couple times a week, and make time to cook healthy meals in advance. In my case, writing is a true self-love ritual that boosts my energy.
I like to keep a written schedule, which really helps in following my self love routine. What works well for me, is to add some small joyful details. For example:
“Add cinnamon powder to your coffee today”
“Take a bath without a phone in your hands”
These small details will remind you that you are taking care of yourself. If this is not a way to self love then what is? These small things are what make us who we are.
7. Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes
Self-love doesn’t mean to love only the picture perfect side of ourselves, but to also accept our flaws and mistakes.
We are not perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Even if you think that someone is having perfect life on social media and they never fail… believe me they do. They just do not show it to everyone.
If we dare to be a little philosophical – mistakes are actually our friends! They help us to grow and to be better. With mistakes we can understand what to change and fix.
8. Celebrate Small Achievements
Celebrating small achievements is one of the best ways to practice self love. This is because we tend to underestimate our achievements, and acknowledging our small victories can sometimes be more than enough to give our self esteem the boost it needs.
Write down your wins down in your notebook or mobile phone. Make it your habit to tell yourself that you did an amazing job and that you’re proud of yourself. How you do it doesn’t really matter.
If you want to take it to the next level, treat yourself for even the smallest of achievements. For example, you can get the lipstick you always wanted or go to the spa for a nice treatment. Rewarding yourself will help your subconscious mind to believe that you are successful and perfect as you are.
9. Love Your Body
What does it mean to love your body? Does it mean that I should eat all I want without any limitations and lay on the couch? Or maybe it means to exercise 7 days a week and eat only healthy food?
Well, neither of these answers are correct. To love your body means to be in balance. It means to listen to your body and what it needs now. It can be a hot bath with essential oils, a long walk in the park, or a coffee after morning exercise.
This may sound obvious, but give your body what it wants, and it will reward you.
10. Speak Kindly
I hear all the time that to love yourself you should be kind to yourself. And I fully agree with that. But it’s also important to be kind towards the world and other people.
As you know, the law of attraction says that your energy attracts like energies (if you have no idea what I’m talking about, check out this article on How to Ask the Universe for Something).
So if you are kind, and spread more love in this world, the universe will return the favor. There are already more than enough of those who are spreading war and those who are suffering from injustice.
Final Thoughts: A Self Love Routine Will Boost Your Life
Practicing self love will cost you nothing, but its impact will be beyond your expectations. It will change everything around you.
You will start attracting positive people, unhealthy habits and beliefs will disappear, and your reflection in the mirror will make you happier. You may even find your soul mate. Last but not least, you will also start loving and accepting yourself fully, and unconditionally.
Creating a self love routine is definitely worth a try, don’t you think so? Here’s a quick self love checklist to sum things up: